Getting ready for the arrival of a baby does not translate to being prepared to raise the child so I thought I would share some parenting advice for toddlers to help you through the challenges. As a parent of a toddler, I’m going through lots of these challenges myself and it can be especially difficult when you feel alone, with little help around.
Perhaps the greatest social service that can be rendered by anybody to the country and to mankind is to bring up a family. – George Bernard Shaw
Oh, the challenges!
First off, toddlers do not have the capacity to clearly express themselves, they are well-known for throwing tantrums and misbehaving when disappointed and this can be really frustrating for a mother that doesn’t understand their needs. Also, toddlers do not understand limits, they cannot control what they do yet and this can be unsafe.
Toddlers are children between the ages of one and three and parenting these little loves can be tricky. Usually they just began walking and haven’t perfected it. This stage is not very long but can be aggravating, as they leave their parents helpless and many times frustrated, I mean, you only left for three minutes and he’s almost done unrolling the toilet paper around the table. Sometimes, you’re amazed what they do and the energy they have. Other times you want to throw a tantrum too.
It could surprise you how fast these little children ‘recharge’ and then play until they’re worked out again. They do not appear to have an ‘off button’, chances are you will get tired before them. Raising them is a challenge especially if it’s the first time. Being mindful of the fact that they are supposed to be that way can make it psychologically easier, but out of love, you are obligated to help them grow a positive mind, a good heart and save them from themselves.
Learning through playing
Playing is to toddlers as work is to adults. Playing for children is the work they naturally engage in as a way of learning from their environment and knowing about the world they reside in. Play plays a very important role in the development of a child socially, physically and emotionally.
A good parent is a child’s most preferred playmate, their role model and trusted friend. Some children actually only trust their parents. But somehow, the many parents allow their uptightness to extend to the relationship between them, their children and play. The mind-set that playing is set out for only a particular time and work for most doesn’t apply to children of all levels, at least not toddlers. As said, unlike grown up children, toddlers learn not by work, but by playing.
What you do to assist their play is pretty simple;
- – Ensure it is safe to play, toys and materials are not dangerous or hazardous, cannot be swallowed.
- – Play in ways that encourage your child’s creativity
The importance of reading with toddlers
Through experiences created with books, toddlers learn that books are important while reading with adults. While learning from books, their language skill develops simultaneously, most toddlers find it so interesting that it becomes part of their everyday play routine. Learning from books and stories develops their minds, gives them more understanding of life. They begin opening pages and recognise pictures, the structure and foundation of learning is developed.
When toddlers start showing fondness for a particular book or story by asking it to be repeated over and over, they approach the stage of understanding things on their own. On the other hand, some parents find that reading to their little one is a real struggle. For advice on supporting toddlers who seem to hate reading, click here.
Teaching your little one to be independent
At some point, toddlers will naturally want to do some things themselves and they will let you know as parents. What you should do is assist them, allow them the liberty of doing that which they can do themselves like putting on their own shoes. Give them choices and allow them make simple decisions like asking what they want for breakfast and ensuring your honor their decisions. One great way to encourage independence is to assign little tasks you know your little one can carry out.
Believe it- you are your child’s primary role model
You’ve heard statements like ‘the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree’ or ‘like mother like daughter’. The truth is, children learn the most from those closest to them which is the reason abused kids tend to be abusive of their own children. As parents, children look up to you as their hero, their protector, they believe their parents have all that they need, they imitate what they see you do and you will be a good role model by influencing them with positive examples.
Family time is the key to healthy toddler development
It is actually easy to skip quality family time with children when they are very little. There are so many distractions from your device, the TV or all the errands to do around the home. However, the little lad or lady being with the whole family is not only fun but is necessary to breed love among siblings and to draw the new child closer to all family members. Play lame games, go for a walk and take them to the playground and let them play their games. Make the most of this incredibly tiring but special time as believe me, it will fly by faster than you can imagine.
How to minimise tantrums
Temper tantrums and acting out is normal for toddlers, to reduce the occurrence and intensity, you should feed your child at the same, regular times, you should know the extent to which your child can take instructions. Explain the rules and teach them how to follow them, do not overreact, you don’t have to say ‘no’ all the time, as much as possible, avoid circumstances that can prompt tantrums.
Handling challenging behaviour in toddlers
Most toddlers have this ‘challenging behaviour’ it is characteristic of their level of understanding and their stage of growth. But some can be more intense than normal. Sometimes, you might feel like they’re extra and require more effort to take care of than someone else’s child you know. Well, it’s totally normal and your child is fine, some toddlers are just naturally louder than others.
The fact that they can be very exhausting or almost always crying and thought to be stubborn may earn them the title ‘challenging’. But at the same time, they tend to be more naturally lively, confident and sensitive. What you have to do is channel your child’s energy in the right direction and focus on their strengths and positive qualities. How do you do this?
Don’t give up 🙂
As you may have already seen, your two year old seem to need to have instructions spelt out to them more often than expected before they understand. While doing this you have to try not to succumb to their relentless demands all the time even if it’d give you less trouble to give in. The challenging toddler will tend to demand things more forcefully when they always get what they want.
As you do these, it will appear like it’s slowing you down and more stressful but in the end it will save you and help you raise a better-behaved child.
I hope that you enjoyed reading this article and it’s given you some useful ideas to take away. If you have any thoughts or comments it would be awesome if you could leave them in the comment box below and I’ll definitely reply back to you. I love hearing what others have to say about parenting. Sharing is caring! 🙂